Living Apart, Loving Together designed for All Levels Questers
Quest Coached by Ella Shannon
Evolution of Intimacy: Staying Connected Across Distance
When couples spend time living apart — whether due to work travel, FIFO/shift work, family commitments, or different locations — the relationship often begins to rely on logistics instead of connection.
You talk about flights, schedules, bills and kids.
But the warmth, ease, affection and intimacy that once felt natural can slowly become harder to access.
Many couples notice:
- misunderstandings escalate faster over text or phone
- reunions feel pressured or awkward
- one partner carries more of the mental load at home
- sexual connection becomes inconsistent, avoided, or tense
- you miss each other… yet still feel disconnected
This doesn’t mean your relationship is failing.
It means you were never taught how to maintain closeness across absence.
Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Counsellor Ella Shannon has created this practical, supportive online course specifically for couples who live separately some of the time and want their relationship not just to survive — but to thrive.
Rather than focusing on blame or pathology, this course helps you understand your relationship as a system: two people with different needs, nervous systems, communication styles and attachment patterns trying to stay connected under challenging circumstances.
What you’ll learn
Simple strategies that actually work
Learn easy-to-implement practices you can begin immediately to maintain connection while apart — not grand gestures, but small, reliable actions that build emotional security over time.
Understanding your relationship patterns
Explore your individual relationship styles, triggers and expectations so you can stop repeating the same arguments and instead create a shared approach that meets both partners’ needs.
Healthy communication across distance
Discover how to prevent text and phone conversations from turning into conflict, shutdown, or overthinking — and how to repair quickly when misunderstandings happen.
Keeping intimacy alive
Receive gentle, practical guidance on maintaining affection, desire and sexual connection while living apart, reducing pressure and helping intimacy feel natural again.
Reunions that feel good
Learn how to remove the unspoken expectations that often create tension when you come back together, and replace them with connection, playfulness and safety.
Managing households, parenting and life admin
Distance often intensifies the mental load and resentment around responsibilities. The course includes guidance for navigating shared households, children, and decision-making so both partners feel supported and considered.
How to use the course
You can watch the lessons individually while apart, then reconnect afterwards to talk about what stood out to you.
Each lesson gives you practical ideas you can choose together — deciding what you want to implement and what best supports your unique partnership.
You won’t be told there is one “right” way to do relationships.
Instead, you’ll be guided to create your way.
Who this is for
This course is ideal for couples who:
- regularly live apart for work or commitments
- want to stay emotionally and sexually connected
- have a generally caring relationship but get stuck in recurring conflict
- want preventative support before bigger problems develop
- prefer learning privately, at home, and at their own pace
No prior therapy or relationship training is needed.
Strong relationships are not built only in the moments you are together.
They are built in the reliability of knowing you matter to each other — even when you are in different places.
This course gives you the tools to create that reliability, so distance no longer weakens your relationship, but becomes something you know how to navigate together.
Take the next step and join us on this exciting journey into Living Apart, Loving Together.